Reader question: Do we create our realities or are we victims of circumstance?

Reader Question: "[Author] Gary Zukav says that we need to think of our experiences as not just something that happens to us but something we create. But can that be said of everything? This is what I don't understand. What happens when we are victims to rape, or slavery, or gossip. Did we set those things into motion some how?"

This is one of the most important things, in my view, for people to grasp in order for them to move towards being full-fledged deliberate creators. We are ALL responsible for EVERYTHING in our lives. All of the time. Things we label "good" as well as things we label "bad." Most often those things we find to be bad are simply the Universe's way of teaching us a lesson we needed to learn. If we can start to look at each experience in this neutral way and just accept what is, instead of condemning something as undesirable, we will begin to truly come into our own power.

So how would a good person be responsible for something horrendous happening in their life? This goes back to what I've explained in some of the older posts about how vibration is responsible for drawing all things into our lives. If a person fears being raped, for example, they are focused on the concept of rape and hold a lower, denser vibrational set point in regard to this topic. Since the Universe does not discriminate between what is wanted or not wanted, only the topic being thought about and vibrated by a person, it will always return in kind with more of the same. Hence, someone who didn't seem to "deserve" it, becomes the "victim" of rape.

I've seen this in action. One example is a family that is so fearful of intruders that they lock themselves away behind fences and gates. Even the children have picked up on this fear and get scared when someone rings the doorbell. The one time the gate is left open, guess who wanders in? A crazy homeless lady. How did she end up in their yard and not someone else's? She was a vibrational match to the exact thing they were fearing and trying to avoid. So you see, fear only functions to manifest the unwanted with a quickness. Same with worry.

When one begins to understand that each of us attracts everything in our experience vibrationally, it becomes more clear how unwanted situations can arise. We must accept full responsibility for everything that happens to us, since nothing but our own thoughts and feelings put us in a position to receive them. Even those poor souls who were the subject of torment during World War II, were, in a way, responsible for what happened to them. This is not to condemn them or say what happened was acceptable by any means. But there ARE people who made it out of the Nazi concentration camps alive. Think about what the difference is between those and the others who perished in the gas chambers. The movie "Life is Beautiful" depicts this wonderfully. It's all about your mental state.

Once you learn to control your thoughts at will, redirecting any fearful or negative thoughts into positive ones (mentioned earlier as "flipping your switch"), you begin to understand that we live in a benevolent Universe. You can remain ultimately safe in any circumstance as long as you have faith in this concept and learn to deliberately create your world with your thoughts and vibrations. People often witness what we call "miracles." I believe these miracles are simply Law of Attraction at work.

There is an idea Abraham-Hicks refers to as "vibrational escrow." Here is where space is being held for things a person attracted to themselves in the past. Whether you attracted them consciously or by default (not paying attention to your thoughts), these things will manifest. Sometimes people get frustrated when they've come to a place where they are aware of their thoughts and manifest many wanted things, and yet something unwanted still happens in their life. When this is the case, don't make yourself wrong! Just trust that there is a deeper necessity for this occurrence, in order for you to learn something. Look for the lesson and keep moving forward.

Playing the victim is just giving your power away to things or people outside of yourself. Step into your power by taking radical responsibility for everything you've created in your life! You will be rewarded in myriad ways, including feeling good! And feeling good is the basis of all good things. Follow your bliss and remember.... don't worry! Be happy!

Reader question: Why doesn't the Universe understand the concept of "no?"

Today's reader question is about the idea that whenever you focus your attention on "no war" or "no sickness" or "no debt," all the Universe understands, energetically, is the opposite of those concepts. This is to say, the Universe does not hear the word "no" and simply delivers more of whatever it is you are pushing against.

To understand this more deeply, we must understand that there are two sides to each issue. Health and illness, wealth and scarcity, happiness and sadness, etc. They are both ends of a spectrum dealing with the same topic. Each end has a different vibration. You can even feel this in your body (as suggested in the last post) when you say the word "war" for instance, focus on your midsection and you may notice a slight tensing or stress feeling. When you say "peace", it is a different feeling in the body, lighter and less tense.

So when we push against an issue we do not want, we are simply focusing our attention on that issue and becoming a vibrational match to it. It does not matter that we are against this thing, all the Universe knows is that you are focused upon this, and not the opposite end of the spectrum.

Hence, the best way to change something you do not like in your life is to focus upon that which you DO want. Fully ignore the aspects of it that are displeasing to you. All they do is lower your vibration (we are energetic beings, emitting vibrations 24/7), causing you to become a vibrational match to all kinds of lower, denser energies.

Ever experience or witness someone going on a downward spiral? When it seems like things couldn't possibly get worse, something else bad happens. One thing after another goes wrong, bringing this person into a state of despair and hopelessness. Do you know how this happens? It's simple. When the first bad thing happened, they placed their full attention on it, bringing their vibrational level down to that of this mishap. By worrying and obsessing over it, they remained in this vibrational place, making them a perfect match to other things of this nature. I've had it happen myself... car accidents, DUI, breakups, they all tend to snowball if you are unaware of how energy works. It is basic Law of Attraction. You get what you focus on.

How does one avoid or recover from such a downward spiral? Find things to focus upon that make you feel good. They don't even have to be related to the issue bringing you down. Anything that is high vibrational by nature, such as petting a cat, thinking of someone you love, doing a hobby that makes you happy, helping others, singing, listening to happy songs and beautiful music, all of these are great ways to "flip your switch." It will be different for each person, as we are all unique and different things make our heart sing.

Try this next time you find yourself worrying or thinking negative thoughts. Find your best way to flip your switch, to raise your vibration instantly. This will help you keep your vibrational set point high, and then upsetting things won't be able to happen because it just won't be a vibrational match.

This is not to say that things we label "bad" (what is bad, really?) won't happen at all. You must understand that the Universe, or God, if you will, ultimately knows what is best for us. We will never see or comprehend all that goes on in the orchestration of everything happening in our lives. However, the Universe does have everyone's best interest in mind, always. Some of the things we label "bad" end up helping us learn and grow. We can't see from our perspective, the ways that something which seems unpleasant now will empower us or lead to another happening that will be pleasant.

I tend to experience bad things in the best possible way. For example, I was rear-ended recently. The man who hit me said his brother owned a body shop and I should call him. Fortunately, there wasn't any real body damage, only the paint was scratched. I took the car to the shop and ended up getting the whole car buffed and polished for free (which it badly needed.) Things like this always happen to me, if bad things happen at all. You can make a conscious decision- set an intention- to also have bad things happen in the best possible way. It's interesting to see the outcomes, when you know in your heart you will always be loved and well taken care of.